Yummy-mummy er du her?

[partyoffive]

Lurer på din mening ang. bhg. dilemma vi snakket om i tidligere tråd. Vi er så vanvittig fustrerte nå jeg sitter med tårer i oynene og er ordentlig tunge om hjerte. Ledelsen i bhg. er heeeelt utrolige. Ikke snakk om at de foyer en cm. Det er som du s LOGISTIKK! Problemet hennes kom ut i dag; hvis jeg putter deres datter over på andre siden får jeg 2 andre foreldre par til de 2 andre barna som også vil flyttes over. Da er det snakk om 3 plasser! Er det vårt problem at dere driver bhg. så dårlig at dere har klart og ende opp med 16 2004 barn på en side og 2 på den andre??? Den ene andre gutten som er 2004, har i 1 år nå lekt med 4 2003 barn, han s ofreldre er kanskje ikke bekymret, ikke vet vi. Vår jente leker med en 2006 jente hver dag. Det nye jenta som begynner til hosten er kanskje et sosialt sterkt barn som knytter seg til de 16 andre barna på andre siden med en gang??? hva vet vi? Vi snakker for vårt barn, og kan IKKE finne oss i at de ikke kan tilrettelegge for henne grunnet logistikk!

 

Kanvas lederen jeg snakket med sa; dette er ikke en sak for FAU. Hvorfor ikke? Jeg har kontaktet de. Men ingen tiltak har blitt tatt enda.

 

Huff,jeg rabler avgårde...er du her? hva synes du vi burde gjore videre? Det er så fustrerende. Smatlige foreldre, og andre bhg. ansatte man snakker med (fra andre bhg.) sier: uff..ja det er ingen bra situasjon. Merkelig - 16 på en side og 2 på den andre." Mens de holder på sitt og er rett og slett uhoflige mot oss i motene.

[Norwegian by injection]

Herregud da! Kan du ikke bytte BH? Helt utrolig! Hvis ikke så hadde jeg bare tatt henne ut og hatt hun hjemme sammen med V.

[partyoffive]

I am so tempted to do that right now. My first instinct right now says to go there monday morning and clear out the girls lockers. Just without a word. I is done anyways. And, I will just hope to find something else for S. The only thing that makes me hesitate is that I will be putting her through yet another change. There is 8 girls and 8 boys born 2004 on the other side. They can't move her due to logistics......I would venture out and say they have managed the bhg. really poorly when they end up with with such an uneven division of preschool kids (16 vs 2) on each 'avdeling'. everyone else agrees iwth us. Including staff from other bhg's in the area. One of them was anpother kanvas bhg. She justs went :oh uff..." when she heard the situation. Will check for available spots there monday morning.

 

How is M?

[partyoffive]

I think keeping her at home togehter with V will probably not prepare her well for school. That will definetly stall her social development. But I hear you - it is tempting!!!

[Norwegian by injection]

I totally understand that, and she really should be in BH the year before she starts school, but it sounds like they're being directly uncooperative with you and your child's needs and I personally could not stand a whole another year of that. Is it really so difficult? And if you make a big fuss over this and finally get your way, will it "gå ut over" her? I would be afraid of that too. I really just don't understand, what' the big f...ing deal?

 

BTW M has Herpes on his tongue!!!! Nice ;-)

[partyoffive]

The poor thing, how did he get that? Did he kiss the cat?

Probably really uncomfortable for the poor little thing too. Is that what makes him throw up?

 

No, S needs bhg. next year. I think just like you say, if we push our way further, will it affect her in the end....They have shown themselves pretty unproffesional so far, there is no guarantees.

 

The problem is logistics. I have no idea how they ended up with such an uneven division of 2004 kids in the first place. Poor management if you ask me. But now they argue that, if they put S over, she needs to put the other 2 over. why? They have not asked, maybe they don't care. Maybe their kids are doing fine and have playpals the same age. Should that be the reason why S should not get what she needs?

[Norwegian by injection]

That's ridiculous, why would they have to move the other's over too? Have their parents asked for that? And really, your priorities are with your child and not the other '04 kids....I can't believe they said that, sounds very unproff to me.

 

God know's how he got Herpes on his tongue. He's been crying and not eating for 2 days, finally took him to the doctor today....and yes, your son has Herpes!!! OMG, I'm glad he's 2 and not 15!! LOL!

[partyoffive]

Maybe that's why he threw up? Poor thing.

 

As far as I know no of the other parents have asked for a change. Right now there is only one other '04 boy on S's side. he had had 4 '03 boys to play with the whole year. Don't think they have a problem. Makes me really angry to hear that is what is stopping it. Unproffesional is the word.

[Norwegian by injection]

Gosh, I really hope everything works out for you guys in the end...what's your next step in the process?

 

 

[partyoffive]

I honestly don't know. Right now we sit here so depressed and so angry. You feel very helpless as a parent. We were called into a meeting today by the bhg. styre leder. I asked her flat out when she called if she thought that it would be any point of the 4 of us meeting again. We have hit a dead end the last 3 times! F took off work, my dad came to watch V, and after 2 min. the leder says; well, this is all a repetition of last meeting. there is no new arguments here, so what do you want to do? OD you want to switch bhg. or what? They want us gone, no doubt. But do I want to do that to S? What is worse? have her stay or put her through the changes of another bhg. it will be her 3rd in 3 years before sschool next fall....Not good eiterh, or..? I don't know. I just want to cry right now. This would NEVER happen in the US. They would never singe out 2 kids form one year group like that. And concerned parents will ALWAYS be met with more professionalsim.

[Norwegian by injection]

God, I feel so bad for you guys! This is such a frustrating situation, I think I would just want to explode and tell her to go to hell, but I guess you can't do that either. I really don't know what to say....this is a no winner!

 

I think, if possible, I would move her to another BH close by (chances are that she will have some of her future classmates in the same BH) Could this be a possibilty?

[partyoffive]

Yeah - it could be. I am checking another kanvas bhg. in the area monday. I went by this afternoon, but the leder was already gone. I am just really worried about making her go through yet another change you know. She will again be where she was last fall, knowing nobody. But again, it could be very good!?! By leaving, I also feel that 'they won' if you know what I mean. Sounds childish and besides the point, I know...But, I really am so upset with them, I don't wan't to walk without a fight. I think I need wine....

 

Have you tried the KWV, south african Chardonney? OMG....a party in my mouth. We bought a 3L carton on the flight back from alcudia for 129,- kr. I am hooked. I can not find it in any of the 'polet' stores around here. they said it needs to be ordered.

 

 

[Norwegian by injection]

Drink up my dear, life gets easier after a glass of wine, LOL! 3L for 129,- wow that's cheap! No, have not heard of that one.

 

I totally get what you mean about switching BH yet again, breaks my heart. Poor little thing, everything will get better in a years time when you have them both at school. What's up with the moving plans? Are things on hold for now?

[partyoffive]

SO true, ha-ha. I feel better already as the chardonney is working it's way through my body, LOL!

 

I got stuck in front of the TV nursing V to sleep. Watching 'Cinderella Man' - looks good.

 

I can't wait until this next year is over and they both are in school. We don't know where that will be yet...so many things still need to be falling into place. This move is so much harder than I thought.

 

Do I move her or do I not..? I will be thinking of it all weekend. Today i had to call a mom and see if she could get invited to a '04 girls bd on sunday....Again she did not get invited. Nobody knows she is '04. Kids or parents.....I am so over it.

 

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