can somebody please help me?

[Leo's mum is doing fine :o)]

ok, well i live in norway and i have a boy who is almost 2 years old with a norwegian guy, i am from new zealand, but i have permanent residency here.

 

things have been going very badly between me and my samboer for a while now, which has been very stressful, i ended up being innlagt a week ago in the psykiatrisk hospital, i got out today, i am feeling much better after being away from my samboer for a week now, and im ready to move on.

 

the thing is though he has my son, and i told him that i cheated on him (he has also cheated on me in the past). he cant handel that i cheated on him, and has kicked me out of the house and wont let me see our son, i have never been away from my son so long in his entire life.

 

I have called a crisis senter and i am going into there tomorrow, but i dont know if i will be able to get my son, i am trying to get a friend to get him for me, but im not so sure he will give him to her.

 

he is very crazy at the moment, and i defiantly cant handel seeing him, i just want my son, he isnt really used to being with his father either, i have been the main carer in his life.

 

does he has any right to just take him like that??? just refuse me to see him? if he doesnt let me see him tomorrow should i call the police?

 

i cant sleep at all, i just want my son, this is extremely upsetting for me. he is my entire world.

 

its so unfair that he is punishing little leo like this, he has no idea what is going on, mummy has just dissappeared.

[mammaen til G & A]

I'm so sorry to hear all the trouble you are going through right now. I would urge you to at least call the police to find out where you need to go to get help in getting to see your son. They should also be able to tell you what if anything they can do. Did the krise senter not give you any help in telling you what rights you have?

 

Hope you get some help in the morning.

 

 

[Northernlights]

Sad to hear about all your problems =o(

I know how hard it is to live in a country that isnt the one you were born in.

 

My advice:

Get yourself together. In the morning,you get a lawyer!!! This is very important. He can`t keep your son away from you forever. You also have rights!

And it is in your sons best intrest to see you ASAP.

 

Did they not give you any advice at the facility you just came from?? You need lots of help.

 

I will warn you; your ex will use it against you that you have been in this hospital...so be prepared.

 

Again, get a lawyer right away. Do not wait!

Hope you get to see and hug your boy very soon.

I ache for you =o(

 

 

[Leo's mum is doing fine :o)]

i didnt talk tot he krisis senter for that long on the phone, but they seemed helpful, and they said i could come there tonight or tomorrow, this is just horrible, i dont understand what is going through his head, this is torture!

 

i just want to get leo in my arms again with the least discomfort to him, i dont want any huge scenes or anything that causes him any pain or insecurities.

 

i am definatly not going to forgive my ex boyfriend for this, i thought being cheated on was bad, this is just horrible.

[Northernlights]

I agree with Mammaen til G & A; call the police,and ask for advice.

He can`t keep you from seing your child,unless you are a danger to him. And it seems to me the reason you went to the hospital was because your relationship between you and your samboer was very bad (?)

 

Get a doctors signatur on a paper from that hospital saying you are not a danger to your son or yourself.

So you are one step ahead of the game,should it be necesarry.

 

I think the police department has a family crisis person on call 24/7. I had to use it once in Norway.

 

 

[Leo's mum is doing fine :o)]

thanks for your advice, no they didnt give much advice, apart from to watch myself that every decision i make now determines the outcome blah blah blah.

 

the worse thing is this is the longest my ex has ever been alone with leo, he doesnt have a clue, he hasnt even made a dinner himself in the past year. all he does is sit on the computer and play poker.

 

i did everything, all of the cooking cleaning, i worked and took care of leo and now i get punished. its unbelievably unfair.

 

i am sooo stupid i should have left him a loooooong time ago, i just kept on hoping things would get better.

[Northernlights]

Assume the worst, and use your time to write down things that are in the best intrest for your son.

Write it all down. And get a lawyer...I feel you will need one; he might hold your son away from you.

 

I have been on rough roads like this before, and it is really important you get a lawyer. I dont know how much you make,but sometimes all you pay is a small fee,if you cant afford a lawyer.

 

The best thing would be if the two of you work things out, but if you can`t,then you know what to do...

 

sending a big HUG!

[Northernlights]

How did it go today?

[Northernlights]

Tenker stadig på deg, Leos mamma!