Grade 3b tear and surgery

[newmummy]

Hi, I am writing this in english as I am new in Norway and do not speak Norwegian well. I had a third degree tear after birth and I am looking to hear from women who had had similar experience..I had an infection afterwards and they had to unstitch me back again. Now I live with an open wound and pain and have been told that the next surgery can only be after 6 months. I also have stool incontinence. I hope to hear from someone who has gone through something similar and would like to know if I can hope to ever be normal again?